Kevin Fischer is a veteran broadcaster, the recipient of over 150 major journalism awards from the Milwaukee Press Club, the Wisconsin Associated Press, the Northwest Broadcast News Association, the Wisconsin Bar Association, and others. He has been seen and heard on Milwaukee TV and radio stations for over three decades. A longtime aide to state Senate Republicans in the Wisconsin Legislature, Kevin can be seen offering his views on the news on the public affairs program, "InterCHANGE," on Milwaukee Public Television Channel 10, and heard filling in on Newstalk 1130 WISN. He lives with his wife, Jennifer, and their lovely baby daughter, Kyla Audrey, in Franklin.
Fathers pledge their integrity to their daughters. The young girls pledge that they’ll be pure and abstinent until they marry.
They’re called purity balls, the latest effort to prevent teen girls from having sex. It’s a trend that is sweeping the nation.
I think it’s marvelous.
Face it. In schools all across America, where condoms are considered to be miracle drugs and dispersed like candy, today’s teens are bombarded with the message that because they’re going to have sex anyway, they should practice “safe “ sex. I submit there is no such thing.
Today’s teens need to hear the alternative, that it’s not weird to want to be abstinent, and that many other young people feel the same way.
Here’s the Chicago Tribune article on purity balls I talked about on WISN today:
At purity dances, virgin belles ring
These formal soirees for dads and daughters include dining, gowns and pledges to protect and abstainBy Dahleen GlantonTribune national correspondent
It was an evening for couples -- girls in formal gowns, tiaras and curly updos, escorted by their dads, in tuxedos or dressy suits and ties.
They dined on roast beef and waltzed to classical music in a ballroom decorated with draped crosses and a mannequin in a white wedding gown. They listened as a guest speaker warned of the dangers of premarital sex. Then they stood at their tables, looked each other in the eye and vowed that they would remain pure.
He signed a pledge to be the protector of her purity and to live his own life with integrity. She gave her father a gold key to her heart, and asked him to hold on to it until her wedding day, when he would hand it over to her husband. They walked down the aisle with locked arms and she laid a white rose beside a cross, sealing her commitment.
"It's like I'm devoting my virginity to my dad, saying that I will stay pure because it is the Christian thing to do," said Lindsay Anne Schell, 18, a freshman at Bradley University in Peoria. "The rose shows the world that you are devoting your purity to God and to your father."
In an age of "sex buddies," "friends with benefits" and "sexual friendships," father-daughter purity balls have become an increasingly popular trend among conservative Christians in the campaign for abstinence instead of condoms. Since the first event was held in Colorado Springs in 1998, the concept -- that holding on to one's virginity until marriage is ordered by God -- has spread to 48 states.
Modesty movement vs. MTV
While abstinence has long been promoted as a practical if controversial way of preventing teenage pregnancy, it has been reconstituted as part of a so-called modesty movement sweeping the country. Girls as young as 10 are being asked to take a stand against teen sex and also to counter the negative images they are bombarded with in the media. That means trashing CDs with sexually explicit language, turning off MTV and throwing away low-rider jeans and navel rings.
In this new counterculture, trouble-prone pop stars such as Britney Spears and Lindsay Lohan are outcasts. In their place, 1 in 6 teens are signing virginity pledges, though 88 percent of them break that vow before they marry, according to a federally funded national longitudinal study of adolescent health. Still, they advertise their chastity by sporting T-shirts that read: "Abstinence Ave. Exit When Married" and underwear that says "Notice: No Trespassing On This Property. My Father is Watching."
"Girls are going into marriage with 12 sexual relationships. That brings so much baggage and regret that it breaks down the marriage," said Janet Hellige, a volunteer who organizes the biannual Father-Daughter Purity Ball sponsored by The Christian Center in Peoria. "Girls have a wonderful gift to give, and we don't want them to give all of themselves away. What we want them to do is present themselves as a rose to their husband with no blemishes."
'Pure' girls or 'property'?
Critics say purity balls and other events send a message to girls that they are property. But the biggest issue, they say, is that abstinence-only programs simply do not work.
"These events represent an idea that there is something about female sexuality that needs to be controlled by dominant men in the household," said Mary Zeiss Stange, a professor of women's studies at Skidmore College in Saratoga Springs, N.Y. "That relates to a patriarchal position in the evangelical movement that not only defines female sexuality but females themselves as property. What happens with purity balls is, in effect, the daughter becomes her father's property until he hands her off to her husband."
While teen pregnancy rates have dropped 36 percent since peaking in 1990, research shows that it is not primarily because girls are not having sex; it is because they are having safer sex.
According to a study released last year by researchers at Columbia University, abstinence was responsible for only 14 percent of the decline in the pregnancy rate among women ages 15 to 19, while better use of contraceptives accounted for 86 percent of the drop.
The report, published online in the American Journal of Public Health, warned that policies that emphasize abstinence-only education and exclude information on contraception are "misguided."
A report commissioned by the Department of Health and Human Services and released this year found that four federally funded abstinence-education programs offered in public schools and by faith-based community groups have had no effect on sexual activity. The study found that youth in the programs were no more likely to abstain from sex in four to six years after they began participating than those who were not in the programs.
Fewer having sex
However, another study, by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, has shown that the percentage of high schoolers having sex has decreased from nearly 54.1 percent in 1991 to 46.8 percent in 2005.
Other studies have shown that when young people who have been in abstinence-only programs do have sex, they are more likely to engage in high-risk behavior, largely because they lack accurate knowledge about contraceptives. Critics have used these studies to argue against the $87.5 million in federal and state funds poured into the more than 700 programs across the country that promote abstinence over the use of contraceptives.
"While adults are arguing, the teens are getting pregnant," said Bill Albert, deputy director of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, adding that 3 in 10 unmarried girls in the U.S. become pregnant before age 20. "The advocacy groups and the policymakers seem to be dug in on one side or the other. But the way most parents see it, it's complementary. Their first choice is abstinence, but they also know young people need information about contraceptives."
For abstinence-only advocates such as Dannah Gresh, author of "And the Bride Wore White," there is no middle ground in the eyes of God. She brushes off criticism that her message is closed-minded and ineffective.
"Everyone has the right to promote their position. It seems contradictory to say you're open-minded by handing these girls condoms and not giving me the right to encourage them not to reach for them," said Gresh, the guest speaker at the Peoria purity ball. "These girls already know about condoms. We are telling them there is an alternative."
Thirteen-year-old Grace Mahasi of Peoria said the ball helped to reaffirm her beliefs. It gave her a rare opportunity to mingle with more than 200 other girls and their fathers who feel the same as she does about premarital sex.
"It's preparation for what I should expect in life, and it helps me get ready for it," said Mahasi, who was there with her father, David Mahasi, a 43-year-old engineer.
Promoting healthy lives
Faced with unyielding criticism by feminists and jokes by comedians on late-night television, organizers of purity balls have tried to place more attention on the father's role. While some events still include a wedding cake and gold purity ring presented by the dads, others now emphasize that the event is more about promoting a healthy relationship between fathers and daughters. The girls no longer are asked to sign a virginity pledge at many purity balls.
Randy Wilson, who with his wife, Lisa, founded Generations of Light, the Christian ministry in Colorado Springs that held the nation's first purity ball almost a decade ago, said he never intended to start a trend to promote abstinence, though he is pleased if girls decide to take that route on her own.
"This was birthed out of our home, not the abstinence movement," said Wilson, who has five daughters and two sons. "It is a fatherhood event, not a virginity or abstinence event. We don't think it's appropriate to put that weight on the daughter's shoulders."
Studies by sociologists have shown that girls who spend more time with their fathers are more likely to have higher self-esteem, go to college and get better jobs than those who do not. According to Wilson, if a young woman can go to her father to get answers for core questions, such as "Am I beautiful?" she won't need to seek confirmation of her worth from other males.
For Danny Schell, 48, who has escorted his daughter, Lindsay Anne, to the Peoria purity ball three times, the event is as much about spending the evening with his daughter as the two of them committing to purity. The first time, when she was 13, he presented her with a blue topaz promise ring.
The next time, he gave her a pearl necklace, and this time, it was a necklace with three dangling diamonds. He is looking forward to doing the same with his two younger daughters.
"You don't need to go to a fancy hall to remain pure," said Schell, a pharmacist from Dunlap, Ill. "But she will remember this special night with dad for the remainder of her life. She got all dressed up like the prom, had a good meal and enjoyed a night dedicated to God."
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Taking the vows of purity
During some purity balls, fathers present their daughters with gold purity bands. In Peoria, the daughters presented their fathers with gold keys and the fathers signed forms pledging to live a pure life and protect their daughters' purity.
*This is a suggested vow for the girls to say as they hand over a key to their fathers:
Dad, this is the key to my heart. Please hold it for me until my wedding day and give it to my husband.
*Fathers are asked to sign a Purity Covering and Covenant that states:
I (daughter's name) father (or mentor) choose before God to cover her as her authority and protection in the area of purity. I will be pure in my own life as a man, husband and Father. I will be a man of integrity and accountability as I lead, guide and pray over her and my family as the High priest in my home. This covering will be used by God to influence generations to come.
(The daughter then signs it as a witness)
IN THE WEB EDITION: Watch video of a rose ceremony at a Purity Ball in Peoria at chicagotribune.com/purity