Jennifer is a one in a million stay-at-home mom. (More like one OF a million stay at home moms!) She graduated from a liberal arts college but there is nothing liberal OR artsy about her. She is married to Kevin Fischer of This Just In, and together they have a beautiful young daughter Kyla Audrey. In no particular order she loves dogs, wine, a good bargain, her family, pizza, and entertaining. Follow her blog of all things miscellaneous including but not limited to cooking and baking, entertaining and party planning, being a mommy, and homekeeping.
Or, an alternate title: “We’re perfect parents!”
OK clearly neither one of these is true. As I told Kevin last night, Kyla will most likely have at least one “issue” in her adult life brought on by me in her childhood. (A food-related issue will not be among them, but that’s for a separate blog.)
There’s a blog called “I Can Teach My Child” written by a teacher-turned-SAHM that I enjoy reading occasionally. (I wish it were more than occasionally but you know how life gets in the way of things you want to do!) Today on Facebook, her blog caught my eye: “71 Things Your Child Needs To Know Before Kindergarten.” She mentions at the start that the list is not hers; she is merely passing it along as an educator, and asks for the opinions of her readers.
Two things struck me as I read her blog, and the comments that followed. One, I can breathe a sigh of relief that Kyla has already (at the tender age of not-quite-three-years) mastered several things on this list. Two, parents get awfully nasty even on a simple topic like this, on a friendly blog like hers.
If there is one thing I have already learned even though I’m only the parent of ONE child who isn’t even in preschool, it is that each child is an individual who will do things on his or her own time. Certainly there are milestones (physical, social, mental, etc.) that you want your offspring to reach by a certain age. If you don’t have development markers of some sort, you can’t look for items that need extra attention or correction.
Some parents thought the list was expecting FAR too much of a little k-gartner. Some thought that if their kiddos didn’t accomplish this list long before their cherub began school then something was drastically wrong. If the child had done/was doing most of the list already then either the parent thought their child was the next Einstein, OR another parent was accusing them of not letting their kid get enough play time! SERIOUSLY???!!!
From the moment she wakes up until the moment she goes to bed, Kyla is playing. She is also learning. We read, we look at photo albums, we pretend-play. We talk about colors, we count, we identify things in the world around us. Most often for us playing and learning go hand in hand. And as I’ve mentioned before, even her TV viewing is educational while it is being fun.
As you read the blog, you will most likely pat yourself on the back for your child’s past or current accomplishments and that’s fine. I certainly did. I didn’t freak out and start a timeline for the next two years to make sure everything else is checked off before she walks through the doors on her first day of Kindergarten. And I didn’t post any nasty comment accusing another mommy of depriving free time from their preschooler!